Don’t feel bad if you have a thing for your partner’s sexy, alluring feet. There is a way to tell your significant other about your foot fetish without making them uncomfortable. Follow these simple steps to admit to yourself that you have a thing for feet.
Laying the Groundwork
1. Don’t confess right away. If you want your partner to accept your foot fetish, the worst thing you can do is reveal it right away. If you’re in the middle of your first date, or even kissing for the first time, saying, “I have a foot fetish!” is likely to derail your evening. If you want to tell your partner about your foot fetish and get the best results, you should wait until you know each other a little better.
You should ideally wait until you have had a sexual experience before discussing your foot fetish. If not, it may be too much, too soon.
On the other hand, you don’t want to wait too long because if you walk down the aisle before admitting your lifelong obsession with feet, you could get in a lot of trouble.
2. When you’re ready, begin touching your partner’s feet. Once you’ve become more at ease with your partner, it’s time to put your relationship to the test. If you’re in bed and in various states of undress, try kissing your partner’s stomach, legs, and then move your way down to the feet. Don’t go straight for the feet or you’ll startle your partner. If you’re watching TV and want to give your partner a sexy foot massage, just start touching his or her feet.
Don’t start licking or sucking on your partner’s feet just yet; this may also be too much too soon.
3. Watch how they react. How does your significant other react when you go for the feet? Do you notice approval murmurs, the occasional “Oh, that feels good,” and a nice relaxed smile on his or her face? If this is the case, then things are going in the right direction. If your partner pulls away or even says they don’t like it when you touch their feet, it’s time to call it quits.
Don’t be discouraged if your partner reacts negatively. You might still be able to change things. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go for the feet again until you’ve had the big talk.
4. If your partner responds favourably, compliment their feet. Don’t overdo it; just say something like, “You have such sexy feet,” or “I just love your feet.” Don’t make it sound like a fetish just yet; simply tell your partner that he or she has exceptional feet. This will make it easier for your partner to accept the news than if you stated unequivocally that you adore all feet before paying special attention to your partner’s feet.
Furthermore, if you’re a guy and really need to mention her feet, you can compliment her on it when you’re out on the town. “Your feet look great in those shoes,” you can say. But don’t go overboard, or she’ll suspect you have a foot fetish and only like her for her feet.
Admitting to Your Foot Fetish
1. Choose the best time to do it. When is it appropriate to admit to having a foot fetish? There is no hard and fast rule, but you should probably avoid doing it in the middle of a hook-up. Instead, choose a time when you and your special someone can relax and enjoy each other’s company while still having some privacy. You can tell your girl or guy when you’re back at your place and believe you’re on the verge of hooking up again.
Fessing up in the middle of hooking up or cuddling may elicit an unexpected reaction and can disrupt the mood (though not completely ruin it!).
2. Act a little tense. Even if you’ve had a foot fetish for years and it seems perfectly normal to you, you should be considerate of your partner. Sure, you think feet are hot; plenty of other people do as well. However, to someone who doesn’t have a foot fetish, this news will come as a surprise, so don’t just drop this comment like you’re announcing that it’s about to rain.
“There’s something I need to tell you…” and make it clear to your partner that you have something important to say in order to gain his or her attention.
If you appear too nervous, your partner will become nervous as well. Simply act nervous enough for your partner to notice that you genuinely care about what she thinks.
3. Let it all out. Be truthful. “Hey, I have a thing for feet,” you can say. “I want you to know that I have a foot fetish,” for example. That’s all there is to it. There’s no need to explain why, how long you’ve had it, or how much you enjoy sexy, sexy feet. Simply tell your partner, let it all out, and let the relief of finally owning up wash over you. Make eye contact, look him or her in the eyes, and wait for a response.
If you don’t hear anything, you can always ask, “What do you think?” However, it is generally a good idea to give your partner some time to process the news.
4. Respond appropriately to your partner’s emotions. This news can be interpreted in several ways. In the best-case scenario, your partner says, “Is that true? That’s strange. I’m not bothered at all!” However, your partner is more likely to want more information or will be unsure how to react. The worst-case scenario is that your partner is completely unaccepting of your fetish and thinks feet are disgusting. But now that you’ve said your piece, it’s time to be mature and deal with your partner’s reaction in a mature and adult manner. Whatever happens, be proud of yourself for being truthful.
Great if your partner accepts your foot fetish on the spot. Prepare yourself for a night of kinky fun.
Take things slowly if your partner needs some time to process it. Don’t try to touch his or her feet too much during your next kissing session; instead, wait for your partner’s approval.
If your partner is simply not interested, there’s no need to try to force it. After all, time is of the essence, and you have a foot fetish. It’s now up to you to decide whether or not you can handle a relationship that doesn’t allow you to indulge your foot fetish. There’s also a chance that they’ll get used to it and become curious after a while.
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