Have you ever had a crush on someone else who was dating someone else? If you have feelings for a girl who is already in a relationship, it is not your fault. Simply respect her situation and avoid threatening tactics that could jeopardise her current relationship.
1. Find out more about her. If you don’t already know much about the girl, ask some of her friends what she likes. If you have mutual friends, you may be able to figure this out fairly easily. Learning what she likes can help you focus on what you have in common.
For example, you might discover that she enjoys the same types of movies that you do. Try going to the movies at the same time so you can run into her and have something to talk about when you meet.
2. Spend time with her in a group setting. Some people can become friends right away, while others need to spend some time in each other’s company. Make emotional bonds by hanging out together, having fun together, and becoming comfortable in each other’s company. If you’re both in a group, make a point of approaching her and talking to her. She’ll be flattered, or at the very least willing to talk to you, because you’ve shown an interest in her.
Understand that this will not happen overnight. You’ll most likely need to spend a significant amount of time together.
3. Demonstrate to her that you care about her. Make it clear to the girl that you are available to her if she requires someone to talk to. If she comes to you for help, listen to her and be there for her. You don’t have to express your feelings for her or say anything negative about her current partner. Instead, make casual small talk, solicit her opinion on something, or inquire about what is going on in her life.
Simply paying attention to her will show her that you care. Even if she is in a romantic relationship, this will increase her feelings of friendliness toward you.
4. Please be patient. It can take time to form a friendship. Don’t put any pressure on the girl to get into a relationship. Instead, simply learn to appreciate her company. You could become really good friends for a while, or the girl could leave her partner and start dating you.
Remember that being a supportive friend can encourage the girl to reconsider her current relationship. She might realise you’re a better partner than she is.
5. Be true to yourself. It’s easy to believe that if you like a girl, you should be the type of person she’d like. For example, if she participates in multiple sports but you dislike being athletic, don’t pretend to enjoy or participate in sports for her sake. You should be truthful with the girl so that she will want to start a relationship with the real you.
If you are dishonest with her, you will sever the emotional bond you are forming with her. You’ll also set yourself up for disappointment later on when you’re no longer content pretending.
Exposing Her Feelings For You
1. Spend one-on-one time with her. You don’t have to ask a girl out to spend one-on-one time with her. She may feel less pressured if you simply ask her to do things with you without referring to these outings as dates. If she always agrees to spend time with you alone, she’s probably interested in you as well.
You could, for example, go out for coffee, buy music together, visit a farmer’s market, or simply go shopping.
2. Provide a romantic gesture. Consider what she enjoys and try to do something out of the ordinary for her. Giving the girl flowers or something romantic, such as a poem, is a classic. However, depending on what she enjoys, you could do something unique and romantic. For example, if she is particularly fond of original artwork, paint her something.
Don’t be concerned if what you give her isn’t of professional quality or expensive. The romantic gesture’s purpose is to express your feelings for her.
3. Make it clear that you like her more than a friend. Tell her how much you enjoy being with her while you’re spending one-on-one time with her. Let her know that you enjoy hanging out with a mutual group as well, but that your time alone is more important. You could also mention how important she has become to you or how your feelings for her have evolved.
If you’re worried about directly hinting to her, consider texting or calling her. When communicating electronically, you may discover that you have more courage. This will also allow her some time to process her emotions and respond to you.
4. Watch how she reacts to flirting. Flirt casually with her to see how she reacts. She may smile, flirt back, tease you, or laugh if she is encouraging you. These could be signs that she wants to start a romantic relationship with you. Give her some space if she gives you the cold shoulder, tells you to stop, or appears uncomfortable.
You can continue to spend time together, but if she doesn’t respond well to your flirting, you should think about moving on. If she enjoys the flirting, continue to pay attention to her and try to spend more time with her.
Asking the Girl Out On a Date
1. Consider your requirements. Before you become overly attached or involved with the girl in a relationship, consider your goals. Do you simply want to become good friends because you believe you have a lot in common? Or are you looking for a romantic partner? Because the girl is in a relationship, you must determine:
If you’re willing to wait until her current relationship ends,
If she stays in her current relationship, you may be able to move on emotionally.
If you don’t mind looking for a different girl who is available to date,
2. Determine whether or not you should ask her out. If you’ve become good friends, you might be wondering whether you should pursue the relationship further. Avoid asking her out if she’s still in a relationship. She’s already made her decision because she’s in a relationship. If she’s broken up with her boyfriend, you could either prepare to ask her out or wait to see if she asks you out.
If you do decide to ask her out, think about how you want to go about it. Plan ahead of time what you’ll say and how you’ll approach her.
3. Invite her out on a date. Maintain a low-stakes situation and ask her out on a date. Avoid asking her to be your girlfriend right away. That may be too much pressure if she has recently ended a relationship. When you ask her, be confident and hopeful. You should also provide her with a few options.
“I know you like Thai food; would you like to try the new Thai restaurant in town with me tomorrow? Or maybe we could go to a concert this weekend?”
4. Respect her choice. Don’t get upset, argue, or keep asking if she says no. She may not be prepared or interested in beginning a relationship with you. If she refuses, remain mature and calm. There’s a good chance she feels bad about turning you down, so there’s no reason to be mean or rude to her.
If you’re at a loss for words, say, “Okay, maybe another time, I totally respect your decision.” This shows her that you like her while also understanding how she feels.
5. Be truthful to yourself. Don’t lie to yourself about the girl’s feelings for you if she’s still in another relationship. You may be good friends, but if she’s still in the other relationship, it’s because she wants to be. Don’t convince yourself that she is secretly in love with you or that she is simply waiting for you to ask.
Knowing when it’s time to move on is part of being honest with yourself. If you believe you are more than friends but the girl refuses to leave her relationship, you may need to consider seeing someone else.
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