How to Tell if Your Best Guy Friend Likes You

It can be difficult to tell if someone you’re close to is interested in a romantic relationship with you or if they’d rather just be friends. If you want to know if your best guy friend likes you, look for signs of affection or changes in your relationship that could indicate his feelings.

Part 1

Spotting Signs of Affection

1. Keep an eye out for timidity. Male leads in romantic films are frequently men of fiery passion and debonair confidence. Guys, like everyone else, are often shy, nervous, and self-conscious in real life. If you suspect a guy friend has a crush on you, look for tell-tale signs, and bashful shyness is a good place to start. Is your friend acting a little nervous in your presence? Do you think his laugh is forced or unnatural? Is he constantly laughing and smiling around you, even when nothing particularly amusing is going on? These are indications that your friend is concerned about what you think of him!

Here are a few more things to keep an eye out for:


Conversational awkwardness A slight reluctance or hesitation when saying “goodbye”

2. Keep an eye out for any suspicious eye contact. People who have a hardcore crush find it difficult to take their gaze away from the person who has captured their heart. Is your guy friend staring you down more than normal conversation requires? Is he always smiling when he notices you looking back? The eyes are said to be the window to the soul; even if your guy friend is too shy to admit his feelings for you, his eyes may reveal everything.

People who can’t take their gaze away from their crush usually realise it’s too late. If you catch your guy friend staring at you and he appears embarrassed or pretends to look away, you may have just caught him in a moment of deep longing!

3. Keep an eye out for adoring body language. A hidden crush can often have a noticeable effect on a guy’s thoughts and behaviour, changing the way he uses his body subtly and unconsciously. Is your guy friend’s body language implying that he’s giving you his full, undivided attention, regardless of the situation? In other words, when he speaks to you, does he make an effort to turn and face you? When he notices you, does he appear to “straighten up”? When he talks to you, does he draw his shoulders back or use an arm to prop himself up against a nearby wall? This body language could be revealing hidden feelings of affection.

4. Keep an eye out for “accidental” touching. This is one of the most traditional tricks in the book! Many guys with crushes will seize any opportunity to touch the girl of their dreams. They’ll give you extra hugs, always be the person to hand you something you can’t reach, “accidentally” bump into you while walking, and so on. If your guy friend suddenly appears to be a little more “touchy” than usual, you can bet he has feelings he’s not expressing.

Smitten men will sometimes go so far as to create situations in which they must touch you. If your guy friend, for example, seems to become extra clumsy around you and develop a habit of dropping things, observe what happens when you pick them up and hand them to him – does he subtly brush your hand?

5. Examine whether he makes an effort to be near or far from you. Guy friends who secretly adore their female friend usually want to be as close to her as possible. Most of the time, guy friends who have a secret crush on her will (consciously or unconsciously) gravitate towards her – standing next to her at social gatherings, sitting next to her at meals, and so on. A guy, on the other hand, can be particularly shy at times. In this case, even though he misses his friend, her presence makes him so nervous that he will go out of his way to avoid being near her. Pay attention to your guy friend’s habits – if he always ends up right next to you or far away from you when you’re in a group of people, you’ll know something’s wrong.

Part 2

Analyzing Your Relationship

1. Check to see if he makes hanging out a priority. Hanging out with you will become one of your guy friend’s favourite things to do if he likes you. He’ll want to spend as much time as possible with you and will sometimes cancel other plans to do so. If your guy friend suddenly contacts you to see what you’re up to and if you’re busy every day, you might be dealing with a lovesick guy pal.

2. Pay attention to what you discuss as a group. Guys who have big crushes on their female friends will sometimes make very subtle references to their feelings in conversation. They accomplish this in a variety of ways. Some people try to steer the conversation toward romantic topics, such as who their female friend likes and whether she’s looking for someone. Others will want to discuss the practise of dating itself, joking about how ridiculous most couples appear to be. Keep track of the conversations you have with your guy friend; if they seem to be mostly about romance or dating, even if he makes no indication that he’s interested in dating you specifically, this could be his way of signalling his interest.

There is a clear exception to this rule. If your guy friend involves you in his love life by asking for advice with other girls, it’s usually a sign that he considers you a non-romantic friend.

3. Keep an eye out for flirting. Some guys are more outgoing than others. Guys who are particularly self-assured may even enjoy openly flirting with you. If your guy friend has developed a habit of teasing you, making silly innuendos, or seems to enjoy scandalising you, this indicates that he considers you to be more than just a friend.

Recognize that a guy’s intentions can be hazy when he flirts. Many men have a habit of flirting and then dismissing their flirtation as a joke if their advances are not immediately reciprocated. Others openly engage in flirtation and innuendo as a form of amusement. Persistent, repeated flirtation, on the other hand, is almost always an indication of something more.

4. Recognize a “fake date” when it occurs. Guys who wish they were dating their girl friend will sometimes try to recreate the atmosphere of a date while hanging out with her. Keep an eye out for this: does your guy friend seem a little more “formal” than usual when you meet for a friendly meal? For example, does he become quieter and more reserved if he is normally vulgar and loud-mouthed? Is it true that he picks up good manners out of nowhere? Is he adamant about paying for you? If this is the case, your guy friend may be taking you on a “fake date” in order to make the real thing a possibility.

Take note of where he takes you and how he dresses. You’ll know you’re on a fake date if he takes you to fancier, “nicer” places than you’d normally go while hanging out and he “cleans up” his appearance.

5. Take note of how he treats other girls. This is one of the most important things to look for when determining whether a guy friend is interested in you, but it’s often overlooked. Before you jump to conclusions if you believe your guy friend is overly affectionate with you, observe how he interacts with other girls. If he acts the same way around other girls as he does around you, he could be a natural flirt or extrovert rather than a secret admirer.

Pay attention when your guy friend tells you about other girls. As previously stated, if he openly asks you for advice on how to attract and win over other girls, he most likely regards you as nothing more than a friend. However, if he appears dissatisfied with other girls, complaining about how he can’t seem to find the right person, this could be his way of indicating that he’s interested in you.

Part 3

Asking Others

1. Consult with your friends. Finding out whether your guy friend likes you or not doesn’t have to be a guessing game; simply asking someone close to him is a great way to get right to the heart of the matter! Most groups of guy friends discuss their crushes with one another. If your guy friend has a crush on you, one or more of his friends are likely to be aware of it.

If you can, try to find a mutual friend who is close to both you and your guy friend. Not only can this person offer you useful advice and assist you in planning your next steps, but because s/he is (hopefully) loyal to you, s/he is less likely to reveal your secret.

Asking someone who is friends with your guy friend but not with you, on the other hand, can be riskier. With this option, there’s a good chance that the person you ask will tell your guy friend that you inquired about him. This can work in your favour if you want your guy friend to know you’re interested in him, but it can backfire if you don’t.

2. Consult a male friend! If you’re really confident, the simplest and most direct way to find out if he likes you is to simply ask him. This can be extremely nerve-racking, but the temporary stress of speaking openly about your feelings is usually worth the closure of knowing whether or not your guy friend likes you. Make sure you’re in a private place when you ask your guy friend if he likes you, because most guys are too shy to talk about their feelings in front of other people.

Unfortunately, some men are too shy to express their emotions in front of you. If you ask your guy friend if he likes you and he says no, but he continues to flirt with you and be affectionate, you may have met a guy who is too shy to admit his true feelings to anyone. There isn’t much you can do in this situation. Simply live your life and do what you want to do, and this guy will either gain or lose confidence.

3. If you both like each other, go ahead and ask him out! If you learn that your guy friend likes you from one of his friends or from him himself, and you know that you like him back, there is no reason not to ask him out. This will most likely happen naturally once you both realise you like each other. Enjoy your first date; because you’re already friends, you can skip the awkward small talk and focus on your time together as a new couple!

In our society, there is an unspoken stereotype that men are supposed to ask women out, not the other way around. If your guy friend likes you but is too shy to ask you out, don’t be afraid to break with this archaic custom! There’s no reason to be happy until you’re asked out in the “proper” way, especially when the “proper” way is a relic of a more formal era.

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