You don’t have complete control over whether someone likes you or not, but you can positively influence their decision. Increase your chances of someone liking you, whether it’s a new friend or a romantic interest, by smiling and being upbeat around them. It’s also a good idea to find out what their interests are and get them talking about them. Whatever you do, stay true to yourself. They’re not worth the effort if they can’t like you for who you are!
Method 1: Make Yourself Appealing and Approachable
1. Maintain good personal hygiene. Take care of basic grooming before meeting with the person: shower, comb your hair, brush/floss your teeth, apply deodorant, and put on fresh clothing. You could also chew mint gum and lightly spritz yourself with perfume or cologne.
You feel great when you look and smell your best. As a result, you come across as more self-assured and likeable to others.
2. When you see them, make a happy face. A genuine smile expresses interest and excitement about the other person, so flash your pearly whites when greeting them. Smiling when you see someone makes you appear more appealing and likeable.
3. Maintain a good posture and an open body language. The way you hold your body can give you a more confident appearance and encourage others to approach you. Straighten your back, pull your shoulders back, and lift your chin. Make eye contact, uncross your arms and legs, and turn to face the person.
To appear more confident, try power poses such as placing your hands on your hips or folding your arms behind your head to form an inverted triangle.
Make sure that whatever pose you choose is relaxed and not forced. Forced body language appears awkward and gives the impression that you’re putting on a performance. When you’re alone, you should use open, confident body language.
4. Remember their name and a little bit about them. Remembering and using someone’s name makes them feel special, so use it in conversation on a regular basis. You can also demonstrate your liking for them (and eventually make them like you) by following up on some tidbit of information you have about them.
For instance, you could say, “Hey, Noah! “How did that math test go?” if they mentioned having to study the last time you spoke.
Resist the urge to cyberstalk them in order to learn about their interests. If you start talking to them about a hobby they haven’t told you about, the situation may become awkward. They might also conclude that you have an unhealthy interest in them.
5. Respect the boundaries and personal space of others. You want to increase your chances of being liked by avoiding any awkwardness or discomfort. When talking, respect their personal space by standing at least an arm’s length away. Also, don’t pry into their private lives or bring up sensitive subjects.
When you’re certain that the person likes you, you can get closer during the conversation.
Furthermore, as they get to know you better, they may feel more comfortable disclosing personal information.
Boundaries must also be respected on social media. Don’t overburden the person’s social media profiles or push your virtual relationship any further than necessary for your level of in-person relationship. Your advances may be perceived as inappropriate and out of place by the individual.
Method 2: Demonstrating Your Interest
1. Get them talking about their interests and hobbies. If you can identify some common interests between the two of you, that’s a great place to start. If not, ask some open-ended questions to find out more about the person’s interests. A good way to attract this person is to become friends with them and form a bond with them!
For example, you could inquire, “What brings you to this conference?” or “What kind of music do you enjoy?”
Open-ended questions necessitate more detailed responses in order to keep the conversation going.
2. Make a considerate gesture. Do something for the person even if they don’t ask. However, make certain that you are not behaving inappropriately. Choose something that a friend or acquaintance would do, whichever is appropriate for your relationship.
For instance, if they miss a class, ask if they would like a copy of your notes. Bring them chicken noodle soup if they’re sick.
3. Being a good listener is essential. Allow people to talk about themselves if they want to. Orient yourself so that you can face them and listen to their entire message without interrupting.
Once they’ve paused, paraphrase what they’ve said back to them to ensure you understand what they’re saying. This shows them that you’re paying attention and gives them the opportunity to clear up any misunderstandings so that you fully understand their message.
Listen with all of your senses. Make eye contact with the other person, lean forward slightly, and nod in agreement or comprehension.
Remember that if you spend the entire time talking about yourself, you will not get to know the person better, and they may not believe you are interested in them. Allow them to do the majority of the talking.
4. Make a nice comment to them. Compliments not only make people feel special, but they also endear you to them. Make a remark about their appearance, a special skill they have, or an observation they make during a conversation. Try not to concentrate solely on one aspect, such as appearance.
“Nice shirt!” you say. “I, too, am a Harry Potter fan,” or “Wow, that’s a really cool idea!”
5. Make them chuckle. People like cheerful people, so make a witty remark or tell a joke. Laughing together helps to strengthen your relationship. As a result, the person will regard you favourably.
Dance a happy jig for them, gently tease them, or send them a funny meme. Making them laugh will almost certainly make them like you even more!
6. Request assistance or advice from them. People are naturally drawn to those who can accept guidance and are eager to learn. Furthermore, if someone gives you advice or assists you in some way, they will feel bonded to you because you usually help people you care about.
“Hey, I remember you said you’re good with computers,” you might say. My laptop is frequently freezing. Could you please take a look at it for me?”
7. Do me a favour. The same logic that ensures someone will like you if you ask for their assistance also works in reverse. Helping the person in some small way will make them like you even more.
If you know that a student frequently forgets their pencil when they arrive at class, have one ready for them. Offer to watch their pet if they desperately need someone to do so over the weekend.
8. Make spending time with them a priority. People typically want to spend time with people who act as if they want to spend time with them, so demonstrate to the person that you enjoy their company. When you leave, tell them how much fun you had and how much you hope to see them again.
This also entails showing up when you say you will. If you say you’ll meet them on Thursday, don’t disappear to meet someone else.
Method 3: Be Yourself
1. Allow your eccentricities to shine through. You may believe that acting completely calm in front of this person is a good idea. In reality, they have quirks, and if you don’t hide yours, they’ll feel much more at ease around you. Sing a little off-key without feeling self-conscious, admit that you still watch your favourite childhood cartoons, or admit that you dip your fries in barbecue sauce.
Sharing the small, insignificant details that define you will bring you closer to the other person. In addition, because you probably haven’t told everyone this information, a minor disclosure deepens your relationship.
2. Communicate openly but tactfully. Most people respect those who can tell them the truth. Lying or embellishing the truth may make you appear untrustworthy, so strive to be truthful. You should, however, maintain your cool.
For example, if someone asks if you like their favourite movie, you could respond, “Hmm, it’s not really my thing, but I did like the main character’s personality.” I understand why you like him; he’s hilarious!” Don’t say, “No, I despise that movie!”
3. Take a stand for your values and beliefs. The principles and convictions that you hold dear are something that distinguishes you. Those things are at the heart of who you are, so it’s critical to stay true to yourself, even if it means risking alienating others.
It takes courage to stick to your convictions. It is difficult to be the one who stands up to a bully or refuses to participate in a harmful or dangerous prank. Being true to yourself may alienate some people, but it may also attract those with whom you share common values.
4. You should respect yourself. When you have healthy self-esteem, you like yourself no matter what. Avoid comparing yourself to others or belittling yourself in any way when communicating with others.
Make a list of your own strengths to remind yourself of them. “I’m a great listener,” you might say, or “I can make people laugh.”
Respecting yourself also entails refraining from acting in ways that contradict your personal beliefs or values.
Self-respect is essential for gaining the respect of others. When you don’t treat yourself well, it’s difficult for others to treat you well.
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