Being elusive can be an elusive quality in and of itself. The elusive individual’s goal is to remain outside the net of capture, perception, comprehension, or memory! There are numerous ways for you to create an enigmatic aura about yourself, depending on your covert goals. According to studies, being considered elusive among your friends or coworkers can make you more attractive and elusively interesting.
Method 1: Communicating Eloquently
1. Experiment with the “less is more” approach. Though it may go against your instincts, being intentionally indirect, incomplete, or vague in your conversations may increase your elusiveness rating. You don’t have to keep all the details from your friends, classmates, and coworkers, but in a group setting, people frequently assume that other members are similar to themselves. Take advantage of this by allowing your conversation partner’s imagination to fill in the details they already expect. Here are some examples of questions and responses:
Q: What did you do the night before?
A: Oh, it’s the usual. You know what I’m like: I’m always busy.
Q: What do you have planned for the weekend?
A: Well, I was considering meeting up with some people downtown.
2. Discover the significance of a raincheck. Accepting the invitation but not the occasion is the key to this strategy. Tell your friend or acquaintance that you’ll gladly accept their offer another time, but that you already have plans for the specified date. Be careful not to turn down too many offers, or you may come across as cold or distant.
It can be beneficial to have some emergency chores or errands on hand. This can also be a kinder way of postponing plans with someone because it is less direct (and cold) than simply saying “no.”
When you know you don’t want to be available and instead want to show off your elusiveness, prepared responses can be useful:
“I’d love to come, but I already have plans. What about the next time?”
“I’m sick of how busy I’ve been lately. I keep missing your get-togethers. If you’re available next weekend, I’m available.”
“You have no idea how much I’d prefer to be with you, but something has come up and I need to take care of it.”
3. Divide your focus. You might consider dividing your attention among different people at a party, which is a very effective strategy for increasing your elusiveness. However, you can use body language to indicate that you are thinking about something other than your current conversation.
To indicate distraction, look slightly upwards without completely breaking line of sight with your conversation partner.
Repeated actions, such as tapping your toes or casually checking your watch, are also indicators that you may be dealing with other issues. Try to use subtle gestures so that you don’t offend anyone.
4. Associate yourself with people of high status. This does not imply that you should abandon your current group of friends in favour of the popular group, but you may want to spend some time talking one-on-one with those who are well-known in your community. This can give the impression that you are well-connected, which only adds to your enigmatic nature.
Be vague or hint at non-specifics when asked about your relationship with high-status members. As an illustration:
A: What were you and the class president discussing the other day?
Aside from what everyone is talking about, B: Nothing in particular. But I don’t want to continue that conversation right now, so maybe we’ll pick it up later?
5. Names should be used sparingly. Language can have strange effects on people, such as making them unwilling to tear paper with the names of family members written on it. By withholding a name during a conversation, you leave the subject at hand vague and uncertain, making you more difficult to track down. Use general forms of address to practise: “I’ll be downtown tonight with some people my cousin introduced me to.”
“So this guy I met through a friend of mine from a long time ago said he had the exact same problem as you.”
6. Recognize the distinction between being evasive and being impolite. The goal of evasion is to avoid physical or mental capture, but rudeness is harmful to others. If you turn down people too frequently or disappear unexpectedly while out with friends, they may interpret your actions as insensitive or disrespectful. Remember that maintaining family and friendship bonds takes time and effort on your part.
Making Elusiveness a Routine Method 2
1. Create and believe in rituals. Rituals have been shown to have a positive psychological effect on luck. People may believe you have some elusive insight into the inner workings of the world if you perform well on your final exam after completing your pre-test ritual.
Purchase a lucky charm, such as a rabbit’s foot, lucky coin, or game piece. These are extremely portable, make excellent conversation pieces, and can be relaxing to trace or pet with your hand.
Consider a personal variation of a good luck gesture, such as knocking on stone rather than wood, or tapping on the door frame before entering a room.
2. Maintain a “soft calendar.” There’s no point in wasting your time alone just to give the impression that you’re a reclusive individual, so why not plan ahead and look up activities to keep you occupied in the meantime? A soft calendar is full of events that are nice to do but can always be postponed. A soft event, such as going to the park, is adaptable, whereas a doctor’s appointment scheduled a month in advance is not. A soft calendar can also serve as a source of excuses if you offer a raincheck.
If a friend invites you to an outing, you could tell him that you were going to the museum and would love to join him another time.
If you change your mind, as if you found out your best friend was also going on the trip, you can always say, “I mean, I could go to the museum any day. This time, I believe I will join you.”
3. Keep an eye on your surroundings. You never know when you’ll need to flee to maintain your elusive charm among your friends. Do some reconnaissance the day before or look up a map online before spending time in a public place. If you need to disappear quietly, you can do so by ducking into an alcove that is not visible to others.
Make use of your knowledge of the terrain to your advantage. You can use a stopwatch to time your return to the scene so that it’s a surprise that makes people wonder, “What brought you here? And when did you depart?”
4. Maintain a large circle of friends. This is a way for you to broaden your clout in ways that will surprise your regular crew. You can show your support by attending less popular sporting events, quickly making new friends in the process. Having a diverse social network will provide you with options for spending your time that are consistent with your elusive demeanour.
Make an effort to spend enough time with the people in your life in order to maintain healthy relationships. Even if you don’t have the strongest feelings for someone, you should always consider their feelings.
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