The most important thing in the world is family. Sometimes it’s difficult to get along with them, but other times we adore them. Here are some pointers and tips to help you have a better relationship with your parents and siblings.
Method 1 Airing grievances
1. Speak with the family members with whom you are having difficulties. Talking about the issues in an attempt to resolve them will assist you in better identifying the actual problem as perceived by the family members in question and will help all of you get started on making amends.
2. Request the services of an arbitrator who is uninvolved in the dispute. They can act as a go-between and suggest ways to break through impasses.
3. Recognize that in some cases, people are sworn to their hardship or self-pitying version of events. In this case, you can’t change their point of view, but you can change your reaction to their whining. Recognize their concern, validate their importance, but refrain from positioning yourself as an adversary to their problem. They have problems, but you aren’t going to be a part of the solution or a part of the problem. Maintain your polite and kind demeanour.
Method 2 Spending more time together
1. Consider how much time you already spend with your family. Is this enough? If not, what can you do to improve things and make more time for your relationship?
2. Plan times when you will all be free to do things together. Take a picnic, visit a museum, or attend a sporting event, for example. Make use of shared interests to plan fun things to do together on a regular basis.
3. Simply hang out with one another. Listen to music, read, watch movies or TV shows together, and garden together. Everyday activities can be a great way to spend more time together while also making things more interesting for one another––use chore time to talk and catch up on each other’s lives.
Method 3 Looking inward
1. Consider what you might be bringing to the table in terms of disharmony. Are you being difficult in any particular way? Are you purposefully making things difficult for certain family members? Do you backtalk, refuse to support, or dismiss family members’ concerns? If so, consider why you’re doing these things and what you might be able to do to change them.
Is that family member truly deserving of your contemptuous or thoughtless treatment?
Make a note of the mistakes you’ve made in the past and don’t make them again.
2. You should work on yourself. Improve your attitude and focus on the issues that family members bring up. Maybe there’s something to their complaints about your grades, work attitude, commitment to a relationship, or lack of goals. Don’t assume it’s all nagging and pressuring. Some of what they say is probably for your own good, in that they’re trying to protect you from life’s difficulties and motivate you to be the best you can be.
Method 4 Being sincere
1. Make it clear to your family that you are trustworthy. As a result, expect them to be the same. Set the example by being trustworthy and believing in them.
2. Avoid gossip, rumours, and behind-the-scenes conversations. Attempt to be rock solid in the face of the outside world so that your family members are perceived as a supporting unit. There are enough people ready to make your life difficult without it starting at home.
3. Respect your elders. Follow the give and take respect policy; even something as simple as saying “good morning” every day will make a big difference.
4. Be of assistance. Assist your family members. If your parents arrive home late at night after work, make a simple dinner for them, such as feta cheese salad, instead of having your mother cook for you again. If your sibling is struggling in school, show him or her how to excel in the subjects. If your cousin is being bullied, explain how he or she can cope. If your grandparents are experiencing financial difficulties, talk with them about downsizing and budgeting options.
5. Be as self-sufficient as you can for your age without becoming an island. For example, rather than asking your father to wake you up in the morning, place an alarm clock beside your table. Alternatively, don’t expect your parents to always come to your aid financially, especially as an adult.
6. You adore your family. It includes your parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and so on. You know what will make them happy, so do your best to achieve it on a regular basis.
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