Being understood, heard, and wanted by your significant other is critical when you are in a romantic relationship. While those concepts may appear to be a little abstract, making your significant other feel wanted on a daily basis isn’t difficult to achieve. Continue reading to find out how you can show your appreciation for your partner and improve your overall relationship.
1. Communicate with your partner.
An open line of communication is essential for a strong and healthy relationship. It will also communicate to your partner that you are concerned with their understanding of you as well as their understanding of them. Bring up issues as soon as they arise, sit down for discussions, and don’t let things fester for too long.
Prior to becoming overly angry or annoyed about a problem, it is much easier to deal with it. When you are able to communicate with your partner rationally and clearly, you will make them feel more wanted than if you yell or speak down to them.
Small talk is an important part of communication! Interrogate your partner about their day, check in on how they’re feeling, and engage in banal conversation like you would with a friend.
2. Validate your partner’s feelings.
To demonstrate that you understand what they are saying, repeat what they say in your own words. They will believe that you are truly interested in what they have to say. When you and your partner are talking, try to pay attention to what they are saying and make sure you understand what they are saying. This can be for major issues such as discussions about your future, or it can be for minor issues such as how your partner feels after a bad day at work.
For example, you might say something like, “I understand why you’re frustrated about that.” It annoys me that your boss doesn’t seem to take your concerns seriously, despite the fact that you’ve brought up the subject several times.”
3. Get to know your partner on a deeper level.
Inquire about their hopes, dreams, and aspirations in order to learn more about them. Investigate their family to find out who they like and who they disagree with the most. Find out what their favourite things are and be willing to open up yourself as well. Your partner will feel more wanted by you as you spend more time getting to know him or her. Inquire about your faith by asking questions such as: “How do you believe your childhood influenced your faith?”
“Do you believe that opposites attract?” says the interviewer.
“Can you tell me about the happiest day of your life?”
4. Give your partner compliments.
Be specific about the characteristics of your partner that you appreciate. Compliments on their physical appearance are fine, but try to incorporate some positive aspects of their personality into your remarks as well. Random compliments will make your partner feel as if you are paying attention to them and want them all the time.
You might say something like, “Wow, that shirt looks fantastic on you!”
Alternatively, “You have the most incredible laugh.”
Alternatively, “I admire your intelligence.” You challenge my assumptions and force me to consider things in entirely new ways.”
5. Find some common interests.
Make an effort to spend quality time together doing activities you both enjoy. It is likely that even if you and your partner have different hobbies or friend groups, you can find a few activities that you both enjoy doing together. Make an effort to spend quality time with your partner at least once a week in order to make him or her feel wanted.
Consider trying something new with your partner if you’re having trouble coming up with things to do together. You never know, you might come across something that becomes your new favourite hobby.
It’s nice to have a common interest, but it’s not the end of the world if you can’t find someone who shares your interests. You can still have a loving and fulfilling relationship even if you don’t share any common interests.
6. Flirt with your partner.
Even if you’ve been dating for a while, you can still flirt with him or her! Make eye contact with them across the room, compliment them on how sexy they are, or send them a suggestive text message throughout the day to keep them interested. When you flirt with your partner, you are communicating to them that you still have feelings for them despite the fact that you two are already intimately acquainted.
Another option is to get dressed up for your partner, surprise them with a gift, linger when you hug them or touch them on the arm, or reminisce about your early dating days.
7. Touch your partner throughout the day.
Even the smallest gestures can make your partner feel wanted. You could give them a hug, hold their hand, pat them on the arm, or massage their thighs. It may seem insignificant, but these small gestures can make a significant difference.
This is especially true if your partner’s preferred method of communication is physical touch.
8. Express love in your partner’s love language.
Everyone has a different way of experiencing love than the next. Identify your partner’s preferred mode of expression, whether it is through gift-giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, or physical touch. Then, make an effort to express your affection to your partner in their love language.
If your partner’s love language is gift giving, they may appreciate it if you bring back a souvenir from a trip or a snack from the grocery store when you return home.
Providing your partner with the opportunity to spend quality time together may be appreciated if you plan dates for the two of you to spend alone time together.
If it’s words of affirmation, your partner is likely to appreciate it when you tell them how much you love them or how much they mean to you, according to research.
If you’re talking about acts of service, your partner might appreciate it if you help them with their chores after a long day at the office.
If your partner prefers physical touch, he or she may appreciate it if you hug them or pat them on the arm while you two are out having a good time.
9. Tell your partner why you love them.
While it is acceptable to simply say “I love you,” it is preferable to be more specific. What exactly does it is that makes you fall in love with your partner? It could be something about their personality, their kindness, their intelligence, or any combination of these characteristics. Inform your partner so that they can feel good about their involvement in your relationship.
You might say something along the lines of, “I adore you.” Even on my worst day, you always manage to put a smile on my face.”
Alternatively, “You’re such a good friend, and you’re so considerate of others.” I consider myself extremely fortunate to have you as a partner.”
10. Think about your partner before making decisions.
Remember that you’re a part of a team when it comes to big and small decisions. For example, if you are offered a job in a new city, you should consider whether or not your partner would be interested in relocating with you. Alternatively, if you are picking up dinner on your way home, consider whether or not your partner has eaten yet.
Participating in a partnership entails taking your significant other’s needs into consideration. Live your own life, but don’t forget to include them as much as possible.
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