It takes a lot of effort to combine two households, but with careful planning, you can make the process simple and even enjoyable. First and foremost, go through your belongings and give away anything you don’t really need. Choose the possessions that you absolutely must keep, and then design a new, fresh space that incorporates the most cherished possessions of everyone in the family. Finally, combining two households may necessitate a shift in how you conduct business in order to coexist harmoniously with the people with whom you’ll be sharing a home.
Part 1 Deciding What to Keep
1. Before you begin, it is important to discuss your expectations. A simple task like merging two households might appear to be all that is required; it is simply a matter of putting people and their belongings in the same space, much like putting puzzle pieces together. Because it may necessitate the surrender of some priceless possessions, the process can be quite demanding. Changing your way of life to accommodate someone else’s is a difficult process that necessitates a great deal of compromise. Before you start the merge, have a conversation with the person you’re moving in with to go over all the big decisions and prevent things from getting too emotional or tense.
Discuss your plans for the new household and the vision you have for it. What will the exterior of the new house look like? Will each room have a combination of both of your possessions?
Talk about the things that you and your partner treasure. Is there something that you assume your partner will give up in order to be with you? What is it about your current situation that you are unwilling to give up? Put everything out there as soon as possible.
2. Closets and storage rooms should be cleaned out. Whether you’re relocating to a brand new home or someone else is relocating into your current residence, you’ll almost certainly require as much space as possible. Set aside some time to go through your closets and storage areas, as well as all of the nooks and crannies where you might be storing items that you don’t use very frequently. Determine what you require and what you do not require, and devise a strategy for getting rid of the possessions you do not require immediately so that you can proceed to the next step. Make three piles: one for “keep,” one for “give away,” and one for “not sure.” If you find that you have more space than you anticipated, you can return to the “not sure” pile and begin again.
Take a look at your belongings and consider how frequently you use them. Any item that hasn’t been used in over a year should be thrown away, according to general rule of thumb.
Organizing a yard sale is a great way to get rid of unwanted belongings while also earning some extra cash. Make sure to advertise your yard sale on Craigslist so that people are aware that you are holding one. During the spring, summer, and fall, when the weather is pleasant, yard sales are the most popular. What you don’t sell can be donated to a good cause.
Don’t forget that it’s much easier to get rid of things before you start packing and moving. Your merge will go more smoothly if you make your decisions before you start cramming in items that aren’t going to fit.
3. Remove all duplicates from your system. When merging two households, one of the most difficult aspects is deciding which possessions to keep when you and the person you’re moving in with both have something. It is likely that you will have to part with some large pieces of furniture as well as smaller items such as kitchen supplies, depending on how much space you have available. Who needs two toaster ovens when you have one? Set aside some time with your partner to make a list of all of the duplicates, and then decide which items are in the best condition and should be saved. A few items that you may want to take into consideration are as follows:
Furniture includes items such as beds, dressers, side tables, couches, kitchen tables, and chairs, among other things.
Appliances such as blenders, toasters, washers, dryers, coffee makers, and other similar devices.
Kitchen supplies include can openers, wine openers, pots and pans, baking supplies, and other related items.
Extra linens, such as sheets, towels, and so on.
4. Make a list of your “must-haves.” Some items have significant sentimental value, and no matter how little sense it makes to keep them around, you simply must have them on hand for sentimental reasons. Make a list of the things that are absolutely necessary for you and your partner. Especially if some of your must-haves are large items that will take up a lot of space, have a discussion with your partner about where they will go and whether it is really necessary to keep them.
Take care to ensure that your list is not three pages or more in length than your partner’s. When it comes to “must-haves,” you and your colleagues have equal say. This is a negotiation exercise in which compromise is required.
Limit your must-haves to items that you actually require, and then go back and see which of your “wants” will fit in the new space as well, if any.
5. Make a list of your clothes and personal belongings. Due to the fact that you will have less space in your merged household, you should think about where you will store these items. You and your partner will need to come up with a plan for where you will store these items together.
You may have been accustomed to having complete control over your closet space prior to the merger. To ensure that everyone has enough space, you may need to rotate seasonal items and store some items that aren’t used very often.
When storing items that you don’t wear on a regular basis, consider using vacuum compaction bags or boxing them up.
Organize your files and records in a systematic manner. If you have financial records dating back several years, determine what can be safely shredded.
Remove or store any items that you do not want to become part of the community’s property. Because you’re living together, you can’t expect the same level of privacy or the ability to keep certain items hidden as you would if you were living separately. It is recommended that you think twice before taking anything that is potentially embarrassing.
Part 2 Planning Room Schemes
1. Make a floor plan of your home. Even though it may seem like a hassle at the time, it will make your life a whole lot easier when you begin moving into your new home or when someone else moves into your home. A floor plan is a drawing or illustration depicting the floor space of each room in your home as seen from above, as seen from the perspective of the architect. A to-scale sketch of each room is sufficient; your drawing does not need to be a masterpiece of artistic expression. Include doors, windows, and radiators, if any, so that you can plan where furniture can be placed in the space. Take accurate measurements of the rooms in your new space. Using the sketched walls as a guide, write the measurements of the various rooms along the edges. You’ll be able to figure out what will fit where this way.
Include all of the windows, doors, cabinets, the kitchen island, and any other features that may have an impact on how you arrange the furniture in the space.
You should also take pictures to ensure that you don’t forget any of the small details that could assist you in deciding where to put things.
2. Make a decision on where the large furniture will be placed. Before you even begin packing and moving your furniture, decide where you want each piece of furniture to be placed. Instead of dumping everything in the front room and trying to figure out where everything should go, you can immediately put it where it belongs as soon as you bring it into the house.
Measure the furniture to ensure that it will fit in the available space. Examine your floor plan drawing and imagine how each piece of furniture will appear on the floorplan drawing.
Keep a collection of swatches cut from the undersides of couches, chairs, and other upholstered furniture. It will be easier to determine whether or not items are compatible before attempting to move them.
Instead of considering furniture pieces in their current configuration, consider them individually.
In order to arrange things in a pleasing manner, you should adhere to common decorating rules in terms. Couches, for instance, should be surrounded by a small amount of space on all sides. Instead of being tucked away in a corner, your bed should be the main attraction in your bedroom.
3. Find a decorating scheme that combines your likes and dislikes. You should choose a new decorating scheme for your home, whether you’re moving into a brand new space or into one of your existing residences. This will help to bring all of your belongings together into a cohesive whole. In order to make the space feel like it belongs to the entire family, rather than just one person, you might want to paint the walls, instal new light fixtures, purchase new curtains, and so on.
Consider whether it is possible for each member of the household to have a private space of his or her own.
Decide which rooms will be designated as “family rooms,” and make an effort to have them reflect the personalities of the entire household in their design.
Consider having your furniture reupholstered. A good upholstery shop can not only change the fabric, but they can also add or remove padding in order to alter the shape of the furniture. You’ll have a better chance of finding something that matches your overall style if you shop with a group.
4. Everything should be organised by room. It’s finally time to start packing up your belongings and preparing for the move ahead of time. Sort through your belongings room by room and pack them away. Make certain that fragile items are packed with soft materials to ensure that they are protected during transit. If you’re hiring movers to assist you in combining your two households, make sure to provide them with specific instructions on where everything should go.
Sort your belongings into color-coded boxes, and ask the person you’re moving in with to do the same. Items that belong in the living room, for example, could be labelled with a purple label, while items that belong in the kitchen could be labelled with a red label, and so on.
Make arrangements to have the boxes delivered to the appropriate room in the new residence.
Part 3 Creating a New Home Together
1. Respect each other’s preferences. Realize that merging two households means making compromises. Even though your way of life is about to change, it does not necessarily have to be a bad thing. To the contrary, it’s a lot of fun. Helping each other through the transition will be easier if you respect each other’s ideas and communicate openly when there is a disagreement.
Be careful not to get things started off on the wrong foot by being stubborn about inconsequential things. If you have three hand mixers, for example, adopt the mentality that you’re willing to give up one of them for the good of the family as a matter of principle.
Don’t fight about whether to keep heirlooms. If your partner is adamant about keeping the table his grandfather built, don’t get into a fight about it, even if you think the table is abominably ugly. If it is a family heirloom, it should be passed down through the generations.
2. Keep an open mind about the final outcome. There will be differences between your new and old households, and you should not expect or desire them to be the same. You’re combining your preferences with those of your partner in order to create something new and exciting. You can create a new space that you and your partner will enjoy if you plan ahead of time.
Instead of attempting to recreate the old house, strive to create a new and improved merged household. If someone is moving into your home, you should be prepared to make significant changes.
Keep in mind that, going forward, you and your partner will need to make decisions about how to improve the space together.
3. Involve the children in the process. Children may experience difficulties as a result of the merger of two households. It is important that your children are involved in the decision-making process if they are involved in your household merger. It’s normal for people to be nervous about merging households, and it’s extremely beneficial if they feel like they have a say in how their new home is designed. Encourage your children to participate in the packing, decorating, and creation of a new personal space for themselves.
Allow children to make decisions about which toys to keep and which to donate.
Encourage children to be enthusiastic about the new and improved space. Inform them that they will be embarking on an exciting journey.
4. Create a plan that is unique to you and meets your requirements. The merging of households entails the merging of lifestyles. Make a list of all of the aspects of your lives that will be impacted by the merger in one sitting. Make a plan for accommodating each other’s interests, pets, and other requirements.
If you have pets, do you know where their new hangouts will be? What will they do for a place to sleep? You’ll need a place to keep their food and water dishes.
Before you move in, make a plan for who will have access to which closets and storage space so that you can start organising your new household right away.
Make a plan for sharing “extra” spaces, such as a nook that can be used as a study, craft room, or reading nook, depending on how you want to use it, with your family.
5. Don’t take over the space and don’t impose your will. Don’t ruin the experience by being a control freak and ruining everything. Make certain that everyone makes a positive contribution to the household. It is not acceptable for one person to take over. Both of you should feel comfortable in each other’s company.
By allowing them to choose decorations, layout, and even to decorate their own personal space, you can encourage the person who has fewer items to contribute. For instance, an office, a reading nook, a gym, and so on.
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