Getting into a serious relationship is extremely exciting, but we understand that if you have never been in one before, it can be a little nerve-wracking. Being in your first relationship with someone can make it difficult to know exactly what you should or shouldn’t say. If you want to establish a loving and long-lasting relationship with your partner, we can help. Continue reading for some general advice on how to strengthen your relationship with your partner, as well as tips on how to keep your relationship as fun and exciting as possible!
1. Try new things together.
Make some exciting memories with your partner so that you can continue to grow together. Finding new opportunities to spend time with your partner will keep things interesting if you keep doing the same thing every time you get together. Look for activities that neither of you has participated in before and give them a shot. Make the most of your time together as you learn and experience things for the very first time. Among the things you can do are the following:
Visiting a museum
Cooking a new recipe
Taking an art class
Learning to dance
2. Surprise them with a gift.
This will let your partner know that you were thinking about them while you were away. Take something that reminds you of your partner with you every time you go to the grocery store. Alternatively, you could purchase their favourite candy, a magazine that they regularly read, or even something they’ve been wanting for a long time. Give them the gift the next time you see them and tell them it was just because you were thinking of them that you thought of them.
Don’t purchase gifts solely on the assumption that you will receive something in return.
Purchase only a few items during a single trip and store them safely away. When your partner is having a bad day, you will have a gift ready for them so that they can cheer themselves up.
3. Give them compliments.
Make someone’s day by telling them something positive about themselves. Everyone enjoys receiving compliments, so get in the habit of showering your partner with them on a daily basis to make them feel special. If you want to express your appreciation, start with a phrase like “I love” or “I value.” Make a genuine and positive statement about a specific quality about your partner so that they understand how you feel about them.
Something along the lines of “I love getting lost in your eyes” might be appropriate.
Compliments can also be made in regards to specific characteristics. Saying something like, “I appreciate how understanding you are,” for example, is appropriate.
4. Plan some fun dates.
By getting out and spending quality time with each other, you can keep your relationship strong. If possible, schedule at least one date night per week to get out of the house and do something fun together. You should alternate scheduling dates so that you both have the opportunity to choose fun activities to do on your date night. There are a plethora of options available to you, but here are a few fun date ideas to get you started:
Having a picnic at a park
Spending the day at the beach
Seeing a movie
Visiting a zoo
Going ice skating
Pretending you’re a tourist in your town and visiting all the small shops
Taking a walk in a scenic spot
Going to a farmer’s market
5. Build up your physical intimacy.
Your relationship will be significantly strengthened if you express your affection. As you become more comfortable with your partner, you will most likely want to feel even more connected to them in the future. Take things slowly at first, and don’t feel obligated to jump right into something as intense as sex. Give them a big hug or kiss when the time is right to demonstrate how much you care about them.
Making hasty decisions about sex or doing things you aren’t comfortable with could have a negative impact on your intimacy in the future.
Always remember to respect your partner’s personal boundaries. Take their wishes into consideration and avoid doing something they dislike or don’t want to do, such as making public displays of affection, if possible.
6. Communicate openly and honestly.
Deep conversations help to forge a stronger bond between people and to avoid misunderstandings. A person cannot grow closer to you if you do not allow them to get to know you more thoroughly. Every day, set aside some time to talk and catch up on your days’ events. Inform your partner of the events taking place in your life and listen attentively without interrupting them while they are speaking with you. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner about your hobbies, childhood, or other aspects of your life because it will demonstrate to them that you are comfortable in their company.
When you aren’t happy with something in your relationship, it can be extremely difficult to admit that you aren’t happy with it. However, talking about it is an important step in working through it as a couple.
Keep in mind that your partner does not possess the ability to read minds. They won’t know for sure what you’re thinking or feeling until you express yourself verbally to them.
If you do have to bring up a problem with your partner, try to include your ideas for how to resolve it as well as your concerns. After that, you can listen to their suggestions for how to get through it..
7. Treat them how you’d want to be treated.
Doing only what one’s partner wants could result in a controlling partnership. Show your partner that you respect them, and they will want to reciprocate the sentiment. Make an equal investment of your time in what you want to do and what your partner wants to do in order to maintain a healthy balance. While you may not want to do everything they want, try to come up with some sort of compromise so that you both feel satisfied.
For example, you might decide to take turns choosing which movies you will watch in order to avoid the feeling of being dominated.
Consider things from your partner’s point of view to gain a better understanding of how they’re feeling better.
8. Celebrate their achievements.
When you and your partner get excited together, you both feel better about yourselves. Whenever your partner achieves success, express your sincere congratulations to them and share your excitement with them. Make every effort to maintain the excitement and make the rest of the day enjoyable, such as taking them out to eat or watching their favourite movie.
In the case of your partner performing well on a test they were nervous about, you might say something like, “Honey, that’s so awesome! You put in a lot of effort, and I’m extremely proud of you. “Should we go out to dinner to commemorate this occasion?”
In addition to being less likely to fight, couples who celebrate together report having more satisfying relationships.
9. Be supportive of your partner.
Demonstrate your concern for them even when they are experiencing difficulties. Just as you should be present when your partner is having a good day, you should also be present when your partner is having a bad day. Offer to listen to them if they need to vent, talk through how to deal with a situation, or simply be a shoulder for them to cry on if they need it. You are under no obligation to solve their problems, but you should at the very least continue to be available to them.
Consider what you would want from your partner if you were in a difficult situation so that you can provide the same for them in return.
10. Apologize when you’re wrong.
When you admit that there is a problem, you will gain more trust and respect. Despite the fact that everyone makes mistakes, you must accept responsibility for your actions. When you realise you’ve said something wrong or hurtful to your partner, express your regret to them in writing. When you tell your partner that you’ve done something wrong and ask for their forgiveness, be sincere in your communication.
For example, if you were involved in a heated argument, you could say something like, “I realise I was being defensive when you were attempting to communicate with me earlier, and I apologise for that.” It would have been better if I had just listened without interrupting. “Do you think you can forgive me?”
11. Work through any conflicts together.
Communicate your concerns so that you can learn from them and move forward. Don’t be concerned if there are some difficult conversations in your relationship because disagreements are normal in relationships. Take a deep breath and collect your thoughts before continuing the conversation. Clarify your feelings and the circumstances that led to your feelings being expressed. Make sure to pay complete attention to your partner as they explain their side of the storey, too. You should talk about some possible solutions to the problem that you and your partner can agree on so that you both know what to do going forward.
Whenever you’re talking through a problem, use “I” statements to avoid shifting the responsibility. For example, instead of saying, “I feel lonely because I don’t get to see you very often during the week,” say, “I feel lonely because you always spend time with your friends instead of me.”
Concentrate solely on the current issue rather than discussing a variety of topics at the same time.
12. Say “I love you” when you’re ready.
Prove to others that you are caring and committed, but only when you are certain of your actions. There is never a “right” time to say those three words in a relationship, but you should consider whether or not they express what you truly feel. If you truly admire and love your partner, tell them for the first time in person to ensure that it is the most meaningful expression of your feelings. We understand that expressing your feelings can be a little frightening, so it’s fine to wait until you believe your partner will respond positively, but you might find that you feel better after letting it all out.
Avoid becoming discouraged if your partner does not respond to your message immediately. It’s possible that they simply require a little more time to feel the same way.
Wait until you’ve been in the relationship for at least a few weeks before declaring your feelings for one another, as doing so too soon may come across as clingy or creepy.
13. Keep being yourself.
You shouldn’t have to change who you are in order to please someone else. You had your own life and goals before you started dating, so continue to pursue the things you were passionate about before you met. Make time every day for yourself to reflect on how you’re feeling and what you want to achieve in your life. Ensure that all of your needs are met and that you are not afraid to bring them up with your partner so that they can assist you in whatever way they can.
As a rule, you only need to do things that you want to do, so don’t feel obligated to follow your partner’s wishes when he or she makes a decision that you disagree with.
14. Make time for friends and hobbies.
Split your time so you don’t feel burnt out on the relationship. While you may want to spend every waking moment with your partner, you must make time for your other friendships as well. Keep the plans you’ve made with your friends, and schedule some “me-time” so that you can get some space to be alone as well as with them. Try to spend approximately 50% of your free time with your partner, 30% of your free time with friends, and approximately 20% of your free time on your own.
Make an effort to become acquainted with your partner’s friends as well! Whenever they’re around, strike up a conversation with them to find out what you have in common. Also, just be friendly and open with them in general.
If your partner becomes enraged or jealous that you are spending time with other people, this could be a sign that your relationship is in trouble.
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