There are millions of people who are disabled in some way. As a result, the majority of people have a friend or family member with a disability. While disabilities are relatively common, they present a wide range of difficulties. Family members who want to help their relatives may face a number of difficulties. Finally, with a little knowledge, you’ll be able to provide physical and emotional support to a family member.
Method 1 Providing Help and Support to Your Relative
1. Pay close attention to the needs of your family members. Whether you live with the person you’re assisting or just pay them a visit on occasion, keep an eye on them to see if they require or want physical or emotional assistance. After all, if you don’t know what’s wrong with your family member, you can’t help them.
If the person lives with you, keep an eye on them to see if they require assistance.
If you do not live with the person, you should call or contact them on a regular basis to see if they are okay and if they require assistance.
Always be mindful of your family member’s privacy and personal space.
The degree to which they must be monitored is determined by their age, needs, and the amount of care they receive from others. A young, nonverbal autistic child, for example, will require more assistance than a fully verbal, semi-independent autistic adult.
2. Provide assistance based on need. Depending on the nature of the disability, you can help your family member by providing assistance. Physical assistance, emotional support, and short-term/long-term planning are all forms of assistance.
Tailor your assistance to the needs you notice or hear about. For example, if your relative is in a wheelchair and has good hand strength, it is appropriate to ask if they would like you to move a chair out of their way, but it is not appropriate to offer to cut up their food. Allow them to do it if they say they can, and don’t insist on “helping.”
Consider spending time doing activities that your relative enjoys if you are providing emotional support.
3. Respond appropriately to a request for assistance or support. The way you respond to requests for assistance from a family member with a disability is a critical component of providing assistance to that person. This is significant because if you do not respond appropriately, the person will not feel comfortable approaching you for assistance or confiding in you.
If a relative requests assistance with a specific activity, try to assist them as soon as possible. Try not to put it off for so long that the person no longer requires your assistance.
When someone asks for your help, always be polite and gracious. Avoid phrases like “I’m a little busy, but I can help.” You don’t want them to feel bad about themselves because they have a disability. Instead, simply respond, “Sure, what can I do?”
When you are assisting or conversing with your relative, make an effort to be pleasant and enthusiastic. Finally, if your relative feels like they are putting you down, they will not want your help. Keep in mind that asking for help may be difficult and time-consuming for them.
4. Assist your relative in acquiring any special equipment or resources that they may require. Your relative may require disability-related resources that they do not currently have. In this case, you should do everything you can to assist them in obtaining the necessary equipment or resources.
Consider applying for grants for your relative’s resources or equipment.
Check to see if your relative is eligible for Medicare, Medicaid, their health insurance, or other similar programmes.
If your relative is a veteran, they may be eligible for Veterans Administration equipment or resources. Assist them in navigating the VA’s bureaucracy in order to obtain their benefits.
You should not feel obligated to spend money you do not have.
5. Exhibit love and compassion. Finally, one of the most important things you’ll need to do when assisting a disabled family member is to demonstrate your love and concern for them. Your family member may feel uncomfortable or unhappy if you do not show them love and compassion.
Try to do small things from time to time that go above and beyond simply providing assistance or emotional support. If you assist an immobile person in getting food or going to the doctor, consider taking them to their favourite restaurant or bringing them takeout.
Accept them for who they are at all times. Do not dismiss or dislike them because of their disability. Consider your relative to be just another person with unique needs or challenges.
6. Plan family gatherings with care. Planning family events thoughtfully is one of the best ways to support your disabled relative. When planning an event, keep your relative’s disability in mind. Finally, you want them to be able to take part in family events like everyone else.
Consult with your relative or their primary caregiver about which locations work best for them or which locations the disabled relative enjoys visiting.
When deciding on a time for the event, be strategic. Plan for the times of day when your relative is most able to enjoy and participate in family activities, such as the morning or afternoon. If they have doctor’s appointments, make plans around them.
Choose activities in which your family member can participate the most. Avoid loud restaurants if they are deafeningly deafeningly deafeningly deafen Choose an activity that does not require much movement if they are immobile.
Method 2 Preparing Yourself
1. Investigate your family member’s condition. Because there are so many different types of disabilities, you’ll need to do some research on your family member’s condition so you know what you need to do to help them. While learning about the disability may appear to be work, it will pay off in the long run because you will have a much better understanding of your relative’s needs and the challenges they face on a daily basis.
Physical disabilities are possible. Physical disabilities that limit mobility are the most common type of disability that people think of when they think of people with disabilities.
Emotional or psychological disabilities can exist. A growing number of people are being diagnosed with emotional or psychological disorders. Post-traumatic stress disorder is a common psychological disability.
Disabilities can be developmental in nature. Many people have learning disabilities as well. People with learning disabilities may require tutoring or additional assistance when making life decisions or even daily decisions.
2. Develop your patience. Finally, patience is an important virtue for many people who assist relatives with disabilities. When dealing with various types of disabilities, patience is required. This is significant because some people with disabilities (like everyone else) may not always recognise how much your assistance means to them.
When assisting or supporting someone with a disability, avoid thinking about time constraints.
If you’re frustrated, chances are the disabled person is frustrated as well. You may be dealing with it when you’re with them, but they have to deal with it for the rest of their lives.
3. Consider what kind of assistance you can provide. While you may want to provide physical, financial, or emotional support to your relative, the amount of assistance you can provide may be limited. This is why it is critical to plan ahead of time to assist your relative by assessing what you can actually offer. Take into account:
Your financial constraints.
Time constraints and other obligations, such as work or child care.
If you are unable to contribute time, you may be able to provide financial assistance. If you are unable to provide financial assistance, you may be able to offer your time. If you are unable to provide either, perhaps you can simply check in on your relative and spend a few minutes on the phone with them from time to time.
Method 3 Communicating
1. Inquire with your family member if they require assistance. Instead of offering uninvited help, ask your family member if they need physical or emotional support. Asking if they require and want you to be involved will allow you to provide assistance without being presumptuous and without your relative having to request assistance.
“If you ever need help, you can count on me,” or “If you ever need someone to talk to, please call me,” say.
Provide both general and specific assistance. People may be hesitant to ask for assistance or may be unsure where to begin. “Would you like me to guide you to the restroom?” can be helpful. “What if I showed up at 6:00 with some gluten-free lasagna?”
Asking your family member if they require assistance allows you to start a conversation about their disability without indirectly telling them that they require assistance.
2. Pay attention to the person. The most important thing to remember when communicating with someone about their disability is to listen to them. You won’t understand their problems and concerns if you don’t listen. Finally, listening to the person you are assisting will allow you to provide assistance that is both needed and appreciated.
Allowing a person to give feedback and listen to them validates their personhood.
Avoid thinking about what you will say next while listening to a family member. Make an effort to truly clear your mind. Pay attention to what you’re hearing.
Wait until your relative has finished speaking before responding. Allow them to speak for as long as they want.
3. Coordination with other family members is required. Another excellent way to assist your disabled family member is to ensure that the rest of your family supports your plan. To accomplish this, you should communicate with other family members and coordinate events and care for your disabled relative.
If you are not the primary caregiver, keep in touch with the caregiver on a regular basis. The primary caregiver is most likely the person who is most familiar with the disabled person’s needs and challenges (next to the disabled person).
If your disabled family member requires significant financial assistance, talk to your other family members about forming a pool to share the cost of their expenses.
If your disabled family member requires emotional support and companionship, consult with your family to ensure that someone is always available to help.
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