People have different perspectives on the use of foul language. Cursing can get you in a lot of trouble if you’re young. Using foul language can make you appear more mature and “cool.” Cursing, on the other hand, can easily offend someone if you’re not careful. There are times when you should avoid using curse words, and there are also times when you should avoid using them if you want to stay out of trouble.
Part 1 Staying Out of Trouble at Home
1. Inquire with your parents about what you are permitted to say. Parents are sometimes more likely to allow certain words to be said than others. Having a serious conversation and establishing ground rules for using foul language may increase your parents’ trust in you in the future.” Because communication is a two-way street, how you speak can affect how well a parent listens and understands you.”
You could use a polite tone and say something like, “I feel like I’m getting old enough to say things I couldn’t say before. I’d like to run this by you to see if you think there are any words I can say now that are less offensive than others.”
Keep in mind that your request for permission to use foul language may still be denied by your parents. “However, accepting a no gracefully can help you get more “yes” responses in the future.”
2. Keep an eye on who is around you. If you swear at home, everyone in your home has the ability to hear you. Before you utter a curse, make sure your parents are in another room.
Avoid cursing in front of younger siblings as well, as they may try to imitate you in front of their parents. “Older siblings have more clout.”
3. Choose your words carefully. “What is taboo changes with culture.” The term “taboo” simply refers to something that is forbidden. In general, some curse words are more acceptable than others. It’s best if you make a list of acceptable curse words that won’t accidentally offend someone. Use those words while avoiding the more offensive ones.
4. Do not curse in front of the parents of your friends. Even if you are not present, other parents and adults can relay what you have said to your parents. You may believe you are safe from being grounded, but your parents can find out things about you without you knowing.
Part 2 Using Bad Language In School
1. Avoid cursing in class or in front of your teacher. Keep in mind that teachers are adults. Cursing in front of your teacher can land you in the principal’s office. Each teacher is different, and some may not resort to the harshest punishment, but it is best to play it safe and refrain from cursing during class at all.
Keep in mind that other students’ homes may have different rules and may be permitted to use foul language. When this spills over into the classroom, it may appear that cursing is acceptable, but remember: “You can hear it but you shouldn’t use it.”
2. During busy periods or class changes, use foul language. When there’s a lot going on, it’s easier to avoid being overheard. If there are a lot of people in the hall who need to be monitored and watched over until the next class begins, you’re less likely to be punished for cursing unless a school official is standing right next to you.
Some teachers admit to being more lenient when it comes to cursing in the hallways. “Whether in the hallway or in the classroom, when I hear an offensive word, I simply call out to the individual(s), “Language please,” in a polite tone, and the immediate response from students is “Oops, sorry!”
3. If a teacher overhears you, please apologise. When you drop a book or your backpack rips open, it just feels natural to yell a curse word. If a teacher overhears you and starts glaring at you, it’s best to just be sincere and apologise for the outburst. If your teacher does not hear you cursing frequently, he or she is likely to overlook it.
If a teacher overhears you, it’s best to apologise by looking them in the eyes and saying something like, “I’m very sorry for saying that; it was completely out of frustration on my part. I’m not going to let it happen again.”
4. Make an effort to be courteous to school administrators. If you practise your manners, it will be easier to avoid using bad language around important people. Make a distinction between how you speak with your friends and how you speak in front of school administrators. The following are the most important people to speak politely with:
the Vice Principal
Board of Education Members
Part 3 Swearing With Your Friends
1. Check with your friends to see if they are okay with cursing. Some friends are offended by bad language and may become offended even if you are not attempting to insult them. Every parent has a different approach to their child’s development and learning, so some people may be more accepting of bad language while others are put off by it. The last thing you want is to lose a friend because of what you say.
2. Request that your friends keep a secret from you. If a friend can’t keep a secret, it’s not worth swearing in front of them. It’s also a good idea to curse in front of friends who are also trying to get away with it. Being around friends who freely and openly curse makes adults suspect you may be cursing when they are not present.
A stronger bond with your friends is an added benefit of keeping secrets. “Being able to maintain confidence builds people’s trust in you, allowing for the kinds of conversations that deepen a relationship.”
3. Don’t become too accustomed to cursing with your friends. When you’re with people you trust, it’s easy to get too comfortable swearing. If this occurs, you may end up accidentally cursing in front of your family. This is a quick and simple way to get into trouble.
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