Being outgoing may not come naturally to you if you are naturally shy or quiet. Being confident and outgoing in the presence of your boyfriend can help strengthen your relationship, especially as you two get to know each other better. We’ve compiled a list of suggestions to help you break out of your shell and become more confident around your significant other.
1. Spend quality time together.
Go on dates and spend time together just the two of you. The more time you spend with your boyfriend, the more at ease and confident you’ll feel around him. Take him to places you enjoy, try out his favourite activities, or try something the two of you have never done before!
It’s fine to hang out and watch Netflix every now and then, but try to spend as much quality time together as possible. Playing a board game or putting together a puzzle together can also be a fun date night at home.
2. Smile and make eye contact with him.
It may be natural for you to turn away or lower your head. Try to look your boyfriend in the eyes and smile or laugh at his jokes when you’re with him. You don’t have to stare at him the entire time, but this minor adjustment can make you appear more flirty, lively, and outgoing.
Making eye contact and smiling can also make you appear more energetic, which makes you appear more outgoing.
3. Try new things together.
What has always piqued your interest? Take your boyfriend with you and go do it! It could be as grand as skydiving or as simple as trying out a new restaurant in town. Whatever it is, your boyfriend is likely to appreciate you taking the initiative to plan a fun new activity for the two of you.
If you can’t think of anything, try soliciting his opinion! He might have a fun date idea that you haven’t considered before.
4. Be more talkative with him.
You might be fine sitting in silence, but he might not be. Make a list of interesting conversation topics to keep in your back pocket. He’ll probably appreciate the fact that you made an effort to talk to him! “Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or ten duck-sized horses?”
“Tell me about something humiliating that happened to you recently.”
5. Ask him questions to get to know him more.
You’ll probably feel more at ease around him after you and he talk more. Learn about his hopes, fears, dreams, and life objectives. Not only will it bring you two closer together, but you’ll have a lot more to talk about with him. Some good questions to ask are:
“What’s your dream job?”
“Who are you closest to in your family?”
“What’s your biggest fear?”
“What’s your happiest memory from childhood?”
6. Open up about your feelings.
Don’t be afraid to share your hopes and dreams with him. As you two converse, answer any questions he may have for you. Although it may be frightening at first, opening yourself up to him will only bring you two closer together.
You do not have to reveal everything about yourself right away, but you should also not hold back.
7. Be assertive about your wants and needs.
Being outgoing entails being open about your desires. This can be as simple as telling your boyfriend where you want to eat, or as complex as stating that you aren’t in the mood to be in a crowd right now. Outgoing people aren’t afraid to tell others what they need right now. This is especially true if you are an introvert and he is an extrovert.
Also, try to be specific. Instead of simply saying, “I’m tired,” try, “I’m feeling socially drained and need to be alone for a few hours.”
8. Try to be more social around him.
Invite your boyfriend so the two of you can go out together. Even if your natural inclination is to stay at home and relax, it is important to attend parties or go out on the town. If your schedule allows it, challenge yourself to say yes more than no.
You can change that even if you have a small social battery! Your “social stamina” will improve over time, and you will be able to spend more time around people without becoming exhausted.
9. Dress up to feel more confident.
You feel better when you look good. You don’t have to get dressed up every day, but try going all out for date night once in a while. Lingerie can also help you feel more confident and outgoing in the bedroom.
Doing your hair and makeup may make you feel more outgoing and confident, but it is not required.
10. Show confidence with open body language.
Raise your shoulders and keep your head high. When you’re talking with your boyfriend, keep your arms and legs uncrossed and your body angled toward him. Although it may not seem like much, keeping your body language open will make you appear more friendly and approachable (even to your partner).
Keep your phone in your pocket or on the table while you’re talking. Concentrate your attention on your boyfriend rather than a screen.
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