Young children look up to their elders because they want to act and be like adults as well. You can model appropriate behaviour through your actions and words. Younger relatives are easily swayed. You can help them become stronger, happier, and kinder by demonstrating strength, maturity, and dependability. Show them how to give to others by listening to their concerns and lending a caring ear. Be enthusiastic about what you enjoy doing so that others are inspired to achieve great things.
Method 1 Showing Maturity
1. Improve your self-esteem. Try approaching your daily tasks with confidence and optimism. Make an effort to achieve your objectives. Your younger relative probably already looks up to you. You can help to be a good role model by putting your best foot forward in your daily life.
2. Keep your promise. Being dependable as an adult is one of the most important lessons you can teach a child. Many young children may not have dependable parents or other relatives. Adults may make one promise and then break it. They might not arrive on time, or at all.
Make plans to spend time with your niece or nephew, for example, and show up when you say you will. Make time to spend with them. If a friend invites you to do something else, put your niece or nephew first.
If your young cousin has a soccer game coming up and you agreed to go, make a note of it on your calendar. If something else comes up, make sure to contact them at least a day ahead of time to let them know you won’t be able to make it. Avoid forgetting to show up by accident.
3. Instill fundamental values. You are a source of wisdom and inspiration as a role model. You assist others in understanding what is important in life. Many children have professional athletes, singers, or actresses as role models, but they also need real-life role models to help them understand morals and ethics.
Discuss with them real-life role models you admire and the characteristics that distinguish those role models.
Give your younger relatives examples of people who have made a positive difference in the world. Make use of real-life examples from your community. Historical figures can sometimes provide a unique perspective.
Show them what it means to be responsible, respectful, and honest. Take this to heart in your day-to-day activities. If you’re taking your younger relatives to the store, consider how you can model respectful behaviours when interacting with other shoppers or making responsible purchases.
4. Consider mistakes to be a learning experience. Encourage your younger relatives to view mistakes as an opportunity to grow as a better and stronger person. Discuss times when you’ve made mistakes in the past and what you’ve learned from them. Your relative will learn that it’s okay to make mistakes in life by seeing how you’ve grown from the experience.
You could, for example, say. “I thought my life was over when I messed up at the recital.” It turns out that band isn’t really my thing. Taking time away from band allowed me to rediscover my passion for painting. I’ve met a lot of new people and done some really cool work that I’m proud of.”
5. Use your mistakes in the past to teach younger relatives about life. Let’s say you got in trouble in high school for skipping classes to hang out with your friends. Explain the consequences of your actions to them. Perhaps the school administration disciplined you? Or did you have poor grades that semester? Tell them how you got through it and what you learned.
If you’re arguing with your relatives, consider how you’d react if your younger relatives were present. When speaking with family members, keep your cool and concentrate on ways to express yourself maturely.
Discuss with your young relatives any mistakes you or others have made. Inquire about how they would have handled the situation if they had been in the situation.
You could, for example, approach a topic about mistakes in this manner— “What do you think about when you’re caught being late for class? When I was late three times in a row, I was sent to detention. How do you imagine you’d handle the situation if you were late?”
Method 2 Being Selfless
1. Others must be accepted. Concentrate on the similarities rather than the differences between yourself and your relatives. Even if you don’t share the same lifestyle or upbringing, there may be ways to connect in a loving and accepting way. Instead of assuming the worst, give others the benefit of the doubt.
Assume, for example, that your relatives enjoy certain TV shows or video games. Perhaps you have a different taste. Be open to trying new things that they enjoy.
Allow them to be “the teacher” about certain topics they are interested in. Consider asking them questions such as, “I notice you enjoy playing this video game. Tell me about some of your favourite characters. What kind of abilities do they have?”
Avoid being dismissive of certain activities simply because they are geared toward children. Assume you’re in high school and you’re hanging out with your eight-year-old cousin who enjoys playing with dolls. Even if you think playing with dolls isn’t fun or cool, don’t make them feel bad about it.
2. Demonstrate your dedication to your community. If you have some one-on-one time with your younger relatives, or if you’re babysitting them, consider taking them somewhere other than shops or playgrounds. Show them what you do if you’re involved in your community through a small business, local government, or the creative arts.
Assume you’re an artist, and your art class’s work is going to be displayed at a local community centre. Consider taking them to the community centre and the art exhibits.
With your younger relatives, learn about local history. Perhaps your town has old factories, stores, parks, or museums that depict what life was like many years ago. Help them appreciate their community by teaching them about its history.
Teach them to appreciate and respect their neighbours.
3. Provide emotional support. Being a role model may also imply offering your assistance and undivided attention when you are available and able to do so. Some young children may struggle to cope with stressors at school or at work. Concentrate on what they require and discuss what is bothering them.
Make use of active listening skills.
 Maintain good eye contact. If they’re talking about something difficult for them, give them validation. Consider saying, “That sounds difficult” or “That’s a difficult situation.”
Assure them that they are supported by you and others.
Open up about what you can do to help or what assistance you can provide. Consider the phrase, “I understand you’re having a difficult time. Just remember that I’m here for you. You are welcome to contact me if you need to discuss anything.”
When they’re in pain, give them a hug. When they do something well, give them a high-five. This boosts their self-esteem.
4. Make them feel at ease. Provide a “secure base” for young children to feel safe. If you’re visiting younger relatives and their home life is chaotic, take them to other places, such as your home or safe public places, where they can feel safe. And vice versa, if they are anxious in public, figure out how to make them feel safe in those public spaces.
When you have young children under the age of ten, keep a close eye on where they are and what they are doing, especially in public places. Allow them to go as far as they can without supervision.
Take them to places that may involve vulgar behaviour or make them feel uneasy.
Don’t let them watch movies or TV shows with mature content, especially if it’s scary or violent.
Method 3 Inspiring Creativity
1. Inspire others by sharing your passions. Role models assist others in discovering their passions. If you show your enthusiasm for sports, art, cooking, or anything else, you can inspire others to do the same. Share your passions with your younger family members. Find ways to get them involved.
Get your younger relatives to join you if you enjoy playing basketball. They may not be able to play at the same level as you, but you can assist in teaching them the fundamentals.
If you enjoy baking, enlist the assistance of your younger relatives. Have patience because it may take them longer to learn, but they will be rewarded for their efforts.
Bring them to events where they can learn about various careers, hobbies, and cultures. Consider a local food festival or craft fair in your area.
2. Participate in activities that promote self-esteem and personal development. Find activities that are both enjoyable and challenging. Look for age-appropriate items. Be sure of what you’re doing with them. Make them feel special by involving them in something that both of you will enjoy.
If they are under the age of six, look for toys and activities that will help them learn basic problem-solving and creative thinking skills, such as building something out of wooden blocks or learning basic dance steps.
If they are under the age of 12, look for activities that involve them exploring the outdoors or learning how to build or make something with craft supplies.
If they are teenagers, it could be as simple as assisting with a class project, taking them to a local art show, or volunteering with a local non-profit.
3. Laugh and have a good time. Make a point of getting to know your younger relatives. Don’t pretend to be smarter or better than them. Make them feel comfortable.
Don’t laugh at them or make them feel judged if they do something childish or make a mistake.
It’s better to laugh together and find something you can both enjoy. Show them silly cat videos or other silly, age-appropriate things on the internet.
Take this opportunity to reflect on what it was like to be their age.
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