No one wants to live in a family crisis, whether someone in the family has been taken to the hospital, the family provider has lost their job, or arguments and fighting in your family are growing faster than you would like. However, there are ways to deal with the situation and, in some cases, to correct it. This article will assist you in adjusting to and moving on with your life after a family crisis.
1. Allow yourself some time to accept that someone has passed away, whether to the hospital or the afterlife.
This can be difficult, especially if your previous coping strategy was to ignore the problem, but in order to heal, you must admit that you are wounded.
Don’t forget that mourning is healthy, but don’t dwell on the issue. Accept what has happened, but don’t spend the entire day feeling sorry for yourself.
2. Examine your control over the situation.
Determine what you can do to resolve the problem. Be completely truthful to yourself. It can sometimes help to entertain yourself by coming up with ridiculous ideas (I could summon a genie who would cure her and bring her back home).
Accept what you are unable to do. Also, be truthful about this. You’re not perfect, but that’s fine.
3. Examine your options and determine which ones are reasonable.
Consider the constraints of time, money, and space.
Consider what you are willing to do.
Consider who and what is needed for each step, including people and materials.
4. Make a strategy for repairing what you can.
This should adhere to the same guidelines as setting goals.
Be specific about when, where, how, what, and even why you’re doing it.
Share the plan with people you believe in and who can assist you.
5. Follow through on your plan.
Work on your objectives one step at a time.
Be willing to change your plan, whether by removing a step or adding more.
6. Where assistance is required, request it.
If you are comfortable doing so, ask your parents or siblings for assistance.
Request assistance from your friends as needed.
Don’t turn to video games, drugs, food, or any other unhealthy addiction for the help you require. This will result in long-term issues that you will most likely regret later.
7. Continue to allow yourself to grieve on a regular basis.
The amount and frequency with which you spend time here will vary.
Don’t overburden yourself.
8. Other family members should be consoled and assisted.
This will be extremely beneficial to them, especially if they are young.
This can also be beneficial to you.
9. Keep a journal or make other art that depicts the difficulty.
This can assist you in remembering it without becoming depressed.
After a family crisis, art and journals are extremely valuable.
10. Try not to take sides when people are arguing.
As a result, one side may feel hurt and abandoned, while the other may feel rewarded and appreciated.
This is especially difficult if you have an opinion on the subject.
Try to express your thoughts without implying that you prefer one person over another.
11. Accept what has occurred (or is currently occurring) and move on.
Adapt your life as needed, but don’t let the difficulty take complete control.
If it helps, write letters to family members who have moved away or even those who have died.
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